Surrogate Partner Therapy

What is Surrogate Partner Therapy? Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT) is where healing moves out of your head and into your body. It is a powerful form of somatic therapy designed to help you break through the barriers keeping you from deep intimacy—whether those blocks are social, sexual, or emotional.

We work in a safe, supportive triad: You, myself (as your Surrogate Partner), and a collaborating therapist. While you process insights with your therapist, you and I put them into practice. We create a temporary, ethical, and hands-on relationship where you can experiment with trust, touch, consent, and vulnerability without the fear of judgment. It is a "practice ground" for the real thing—allowing you to rewire old patterns and learn healthy connection by actually experiencing it.

Are you a potential client?

Surrogate Partner Therapy could be a match for you if you are looking for deep therapeutic work following a proven method, in a well resourced container.

You can bring your current therapist into this work, or I can help you find one that’s a great fit.

Are you a therapist?

If you’re open to discovering a deeper way to support your clients on their intimacy healing path, Surrogate Partner Therapy is a powerful and collaborative model that has helped thousands of people over the last 60+ years.

I invite you to schedule a call with me to connect and learn more.

Common Goals of Surrogate Partner Therapy

  • Be able to relax while aroused.

  • Accept my body as it is.

  • Know what I like, what I want, and be able to ask for it.

  • Be able to say “no” when asked for something I don’t want.

  • Learn to enjoy touch rather than feeling threatened by it.

  • Understand I matter and what I want matters.

  • Learn what feels good and bad both emotionally and physically.

  • Feel safe in intimate situations.

  • Act for myself and not just for others.

  • Feel physical pleasure without numbing out.

  • Retain my own identity in relationship.

  • Know how to set limits without being afraid of rejection.